Love, education, career, religion, & friendship.
These five areas are strong pillars that have shaped many of us and shaped who we are becoming. In fact, many of us believe that winning to some degree in these five categories is what makes a good, successful, or happy life.
Looking beneath the surface, however, presents us with the question of how decisions about matters relating to those different categories are made. To what extent do we fall into (slide) or actively choose (decide) what we studied in school, the careers we've chosen, the relationships we've pursued, and the faith we practise?
Although "sliding vs deciding" is a term primarily associated with cohabitation, we took this concept of sliding or deciding further into key areas of our lives in this episode. To what extent are we deciding what’s best and to what extent are we sliding our way forwards?
Given that we’re approaching the end of what typically marks “youth”, it’s the best time to reflect on both the decisions and indecisions that made us who we are today.
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Additional resources
The Attachment Theory
Our episode on attachment styles (Season 3 Episode 4 - Apple || Spotify)

We all know that person who wanted to be some kind of artist when they were younger.
They had a strongly held belief that they could meaningfully participate in artistry as their life’s mission.
However, as all young creatives with ambitions will ultimately realise, time, in the end, reveals whose path to artistry is destined, and whose inner drive for artistic ingenuity cannot be denied.
But in this ‘time’, where young creatives pursue their ambitions to become emerging artists, they at some point must face the paradox of education, negotiate an identity after education, flirt with the idea of a corporate career alternative, convince loved ones of the worthiness of their ambitions, and battle the all too common imposter syndrome.
This fact makes the road to artistry a daunting one for every emerging artist. 
So on this episode of the Yellow Pill Podcast, we explored this daunting and precarious road with a buddy of ours, David a.k.a Davecreates. 
London-born and Essex-raised, Davecreates is a creative with eclectic taste and versatile expression. His music has been featured on notable platforms including BBC 1Xtra, No Signal and Rapzilla.
We explored David's journey into making music, his identity, balancing the creative tension between artistic aspiration and economic pressures, love & relationships, personal stressors & mental health, and finally the release of his new album Amor 🔥 (LISTEN TO THE ALBUM)Enjoy the episode!.
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Our podcast is no stranger to the exploration of pre- and post-migration life stories. A while ago, we touched on this with a friend that migrated to Germany.
On this episode, however, we turned our attention to a #migration destination that’s very common among us Nigerians, that is Canada.
The common view that we often get of immigration to countries like Canada is as a comparison of two fixed points: the harsh and undesirable point pre-migration, and the joyful and successful post-migration one.
Often forgotten and neglected in social media ‘japa’ feeds, and perhaps immigrant success stories too, is the phase of transition, integration, and acculturation, if at all they even occur.
For someone moving to a new country like Canada, we can imagine this transition phase is anything but brief and trivial; it can even be so hard that in some cases, people return to their home countries.
Based on these, we were joined by another friend, Olamide(@lammykate), to have an exploration of the Canadian migration experience.
We have to note that we certainly don’t think all migration stories can be generalised to everyone, but each story is worth listening to nonetheless. Enjoy the listen!
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Cohabitation is a practice on the rise, particularly in the western world.
It has become so prevalent that the majority of marriages and remarriages now begin as cohabiting relationships, and many young men and women are likely to have cohabited at some point in their lives.
As you might imagine, cohabitation is not without its wicked problems.
First, it does not help that in the eyes of the law, cohabitation is not the legal equivalent of marriage or common-law marriage and this tends to have some overlooked implications for the relationship.
Second, people around the world have different views on cohabitation, depending on their background, culture, or religion.
Also, the thought process of cohabitation is an interesting dilemma for many young adults, especially since research shows the ‘sliding vs deciding’ position toward cohabitation can have many effects on the relationship down the line.
Now, given our Nigerian roots, we definitely acknowledge the western influence on this topic.
But there is some evidence that the practical norm of cohabitation is seeping into sub-Saharan Africa despite the continent's religious leanings.
And so we thought this was a wicked problem worth discussing.
Massive shout-out to Bunmi(@akintola.eth) for making this an episode one to remember!
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Once upon a time, we had little autonomy in our ability to pick potential partners or follow romantic interests, with the regulation of this ability laying in the hands of parents, politics, economics, and handshakes.
Fast forward to a couple of decades, and the current norm is that most of us have autonomy in finding romantic interests. Yay🙂.
Because of this autonomy, some individuals choose a single life and prefer such a lifestyle. At the same time, for real or imagined reasons, others wish for a partner but are unable to find one that suits them.
This creates the binary phenomenon where singlehood exists voluntarily or involuntarily.
What @abiolaayanleye and @deolamako helped us do in this episode was to uncover and remind us about the existence of a multifaceted view of singlehood ✨
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Have you met this person? He’s a man based on his age but a child based on his actions.
The man wants your affection, but the child wants your sympathy; the man hopes to be close to you, but the child is scared to be touched.Heck, his body grows, but his mind does not. He's at a peak physically, but his mind is immature. He is a man-child and suffers from the Peter Pan syndrome (the magical boy who never grew into adulthood).Many of you might have met a man-child. He could be your friend, lover, husband, cousin, brother, uncle or colleague. He could also be your ex. And if you are a man reading this, he could be you. He could be us.Whether or not you know of such a man, and whether or not you may be that man, we think identifying traits of immaturity early in its tracks is still essential for everyone.So this episode was about opening up to share some simple paths toward maturity, and sincerely evaluate ourselves in terms of how close to or far away we are from the “peter-pan syndrome”.It is an episode relevant to everyone, whether for wives/lovers to better understand their partner, for friends to find empathy and more willingly offer support and for victims of immaturity to ponder on the situation and find the courage to escape "neverland".
Enjoy the listen and remember to share it with one person!
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This episode arose out of our continuous desire to explore different systems of belief, and this time around, the focus for us was on Islam.
We felt this conversation was important as many of us live in societies comprised of diverse religious landscapes, of which Islam is a key part. Looking at the facts, as of 2015, Islam was said to be the fastest-growing religion in the world and projected to be the world’s dominant religion by 2070.
With that in mind, it can't really be debated that gazing into the world of Islam is key to coexisting harmoniously with our Muslim brethren and understanding the people behind this religious identity.
To help us with this gaze, we invited an old friend, @yettyb_ who is a practising Muslim.
Now, a couple of disclaimers.
We (Wolé and Tobi) are both Christians and grew up in Christian homes, and if you've followed this podcast for a minute, you can be sure that we did not arrange for this “conversation” with the ulterior motive of highlighting any perceived ‘deficiencies’ of a religion different from ours. Neither did we point the conversation towards a hint of evaluating the two religions against each other. That, for us, is what we would call intellectual child's play.
What was important was highlighting the core themes that characterised the spiritual systems relating to Christianity and Islam.
In doing so, we touched on how a person's Islamic identity may be developed and on the pillars of Islam. Also, given that we exist in interfaith societies, we discussed how we manage relationships despite the boundaries of our religions, common stereotypes of Islam, and how religion shapes our self-presentation online.
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We do not only like funny people; we love them!
There's no doubt that humour plays a prevalent part in life. When things are bad, we use humour to give a voice to complex thoughts or emotions and to cope with challenging situations.
Humour also helps ease tensions we face in awkward social situations; it helps us bond with people (We’ve all heard that joke about laughing all the way to... 🌚), and of course, it is no secret that men and women prefer romantic partners who have a good sense of humour.
So in this episode, we explored and talked about the role of comedy/humour on two levels: society and the individual.
It was definitely a fun episode and we were glad to have been joined by David (@davidzoaka), a comedy writer, screenwriter, and entrepreneur, but above all an old friend!
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As many of you are aware, our world (mostly western tbh) is making strides every day in being more progressive and advanced. This shift from history to the future seems to be hinged on one issue in particular: #gender.
The gender subject is one we can all agree to have permeated lots of domains, whether political or social, whether family or society, whether arts or commerce and the list goes on.
Now one may ask, and perhaps rightfully so, why is this such a big deal in our culture? Why does there seem to be a gender spotlight?
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References
Butler, J., 2004. Undoing Gender. Routledge
Chodorow, N., 1999. The reproduction of mothering: Psychoanalysis and the sociology of gender. Univ of California Press.
West, C., 1993. Reconceptualizing gender in physician-patient relationships. Social Science & Medicine, 36(1), pp.57-66.
West, C. and Zimmerman, D.H., 1987. Doing gender. Gender & society, 1(2), pp.125-151
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Hey Yellow Pill fam, your podcast boys are back at it again! 
A new season of the pod is here, and you don’t want to miss the heat we are bringing this time around.
Coming back for another collection of wicked problems to tackle for our 8th Season has not been easy, but nothing worthy of value is easy 💪🏾
In this bonus episode, we break down our creative process for the new season including a little teaser of what to expect.
We cannot wait to share our mental canvas with you all again 🙌🏾So tell a friend to tell a friend to tell another friend, the Yellow Pill is back again 🚀
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As promised, in this final off-season episode, Wole and Tobi talked about something a bit more lighthearted.We hope this offers some breath of a different kind of air.Enjoy the listen ❤️

Thanks for tuning in to another episode from our off-season, where we discuss trending issues at home and abroad!
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A little trigger warning: This episode centred around some heavy themes, and we're aware that spending an hour listening to content like this might be a bit too overwhelming; there's already enough going on in the world as it is.
So feel free to pace yourself or skip this episode altogether if you think that might be a better idea.We realise that deciding to focus our off-season episodes on trending issues has left us exposed to focus quite a bit on the negative. And so after recording this episode, we decided the next off-season episode will be a deliberate attempt to have a conversation about more upbeat things happening across the world.If you still decide to give this one a listen, we hope you enjoy it and come away from it with more than just an awareness of what's wrong with the world today.
 
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Thanks for tuning in to another episode from our off-season, where Wole and Tobi discuss trending issues at home and abroad!
 
Enjoy the listen.

Another bonus off-season episode.Enjoy the listen!

Thanks for tuning in to another episode from our off-season, where Wole and Tobi discuss trending issues at home and abroad!
 
Enjoy the listen.

Thanks for tuning in and welcome to the off-season, where Wole and Tobi discuss trending issues at home and abroad!

Wole and Tobi sat down to have a conversation about the just-concluded season, highlighting key ideas they took away from each episode in two-minute lightning rounds and wrapping things up with a small peek into the upcoming season.Before you go, please take a couple of minutes to give your feedback about Season 7 by filling out our survey!
 
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It's the Season Finale People! And we're wrapping up the season with the notion of building a good life in an unsteady world.
I’m guessing you were born in the 90s like we were. Many of us are still waiting for the fairytale adulthood to begin, even though we are physically there. 
For many, rent consumes half or most of our income, and many of us delay ‘life plans’ waiting to be more settled (which keeps evading). The 2008 crisis, Covid, energy crises, insecurity, terrible government, lack of bare necessities etc. are just some of the frequent stop gaps that we’ve experienced.
Then there are the pressures of social media, the reality of the gig economy, and the rising western ideologies that are demeaning the important traditional values such as loyalty and family.
Amid this noise and chaos, amid all the anxiety and worries that we young adults contend with, how then can we define a good life?
What kind of life would we be okay with?
How can we balance ambition without the tradeoffs that can come back to bite?
How can we all have optimal human functioning when we cannot all have the best ideal functioning?
We hope that as you listen, you realise that we are all in this life journey together, and the journey towards a good life begins with having these same conversations with your friends and family.
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How many of us are strangers to experiences of bullying? Either as the bully or the bullied?
If we were to guess, we’d say not many.
We say this confidently because bullying in all forms is rampant in all societies. It is also a very complex experience and hence, a complex topic.
First, bullying can occur in many forms whether through physical, verbal, social, or even online means.
Because of these different shades of bullying, which can also often be done in combination, bullying becomes a more difficult experience to be a victim of.
Second, there isn’t much evidence to suggest that bullying has an age limit. Kids, middle-aged adults, and the elderly can all be victims of bullying.
Third, the effects of bullying on the victims can be difficult to predict and assess, especially in the long term. This becomes problematic because the scars of being bullied can either show up later in adulthood or even shape one's entire journey into adulthood.
For us, this was what made the experience of bullying a wicked problem to try to break down.
We felt that a complex topic like this one required an understanding of as many realities as possible, and we were lucky to have six people share their stories with us.
This episode was presented in narrative form and not like the typical episodes you've grown accustomed to.
We hope you enjoy the listen!
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Who are you?
What is your real self?
How would your close friends describe you?
Forming our ‘selves’ is a lifelong, intense process, especially while we're young. It is also heavily influenced by our physical environments & the people in those environments.
To establish our ‘selves’, we all experiment with different interests, ideas, and, above all, self-presentations.
By self-presentation, we mean how we package and edit ourselves for our social interactions.
You see, self-presentation is not a bad thing, but quite normal.
It is the reason why your tone might change when speaking to a stranger, the reason why your appearance may change when going on a blind date, and the reason why you might list out all your qualifications before giving a public speech etc.
We are social beings, and we always want to present ourselves to others in ways that are favourable. That seems fair.
But here is where the wicked problem lies.
Unlike face-to-face settings, our self-presentation on social media cannot be applied to one-to-one conversations.
Instead, our self-presentation on social media has to be broadcasted and publicised to everyone at once, in a one-to-many form.
This can be a problem because if we are inclined to present a favourable ‘self’ that can cater to our huge, diverse social media audience, this means that we may exaggerate and dramatise the way we package and edit ourselves.
So in this episode, we spoke about our personal experiences of self-presentation online.
We spoke about how social media provides us with a whole lot more ways of experimenting with ways of crafting different ‘selves’, whether or not our online self and offline self hugely differ, self-presentation gone crazy, and self-presentation in online dating.We think this is a very important way of looking at our digital hygiene, and understanding its impact on ourselves and those we are connected to.
And this is why we deliberately put ourselves on the line to evaluate our self-presentation. And we did so in the hope that our (attempted) transparency will encourage you to make your own evaluation.
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